SEX FILES: You may need some traction, but daters are officially back in action.

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I would like to use this platform to officially announce that I am back in the land of the living. Since getting fully vaccinated this summer, I have caught up with other fully vaccinated friends and even been on a few dates.

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My life is not a real-life recreation of Drake’s Popstar video (yet!), But in Drizzy’s own words, I’ve been hanging out more and wearing fewer clothes, and by “clothes” I mean my collection of Pants. Covid tracksuit that I’m considering setting fire to a ritual burn sometime in the near future (goodbye, old friends!) In the meantime, it’s been nice (intoxicating; euphoric even) to re-enter the social realm somehow.

While safely catching up with friends, I also got a chance to hear about their dating experiences in the new normal. If you’re also finally ready to start exposing yourself again, here are a few things to consider.

1. Introduce yourself

Yes, on your dates. I know this seems like a no-brainer, but I spent Sunday brunch comforting my friend with waffles after he got dumped on his first date since Covid. He had agreed to meet a woman he had connected with online, and she never showed up. No email. No text. Any.

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Even for those who are fully vaccinated, pandemic social anxiety is real. If someone agrees to put on real pants and leave the cozy confines of their home to meet you, the least you can do is let them know if you plan to go.

2. Give people a pass on social awkwardness

Most of us have spent the last eighteen months at home talking to our cats. A bit of social awkwardness is to be expected. It’s also totally okay to have an eighth grader’s nerves and sweat stains on her first sock hop. I was so nervous on a date recently that I almost expected to hear Color Me Badd’s I adore my love playing in the background.

What we should not go through is dating behavior that was not acceptable before the pandemic. If your date picks the taco meat out of her teeth with her fingernail (true story) or verbally attacks a stranger on the street before the snacks arrive (it’s also a true story), you are under no obligation to give this guy chaotic behavior. a free card to get out of jail. This is not the time to lower our standards.

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3. Respect your own limits and those of others.

While you may be ready to do certain things, for example dining indoors or attending a large group gathering, your date may not be, or vice versa. As a general rule of thumb, don’t assume anything. Instead, check with your date to see what they are comfortable with and remember, everyone is entitled to their own limits.

4. Don’t be scared of big talks

Old-time dating advice suggests that you avoid first-date conversations that involve sensitive topics like money, politics, religion, or “bad news.” But after all, we’ve been through, (loading: that trash hell gif), it feels absurd to act like everything is fine. With the exception of the usual banter I have with my barista, which I now appreciate more than ever, the pandemic has made my tolerance for small talk almost non-existent.

Whether it’s a new friend or an old friend, I want to know how you really feel. In turn, I find myself being much more honest with the people I spend time with. Life is short and unpredictable. If someone makes time for themselves, give them the gift of knowing the real you: Drake quotes, sweatshirt bonfires and all. You may find that it works in your favor.

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