“It’s hot, dress as you want”: regardless of your weight, do not prevent yourself from wearing cropped tops, shorts or whatever takes your fancy. And above all: do not try to change your body, the bikini bodysuit where the bodysuitit does not exist.
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Your life, it is now, it is not in less 10 kilos , launches Sarah Wickert. On Instagram, she wants to inspire others to learn how to feel good about themselves. But before arriving to accept her body, she multiplied the diets.
“I was uncomfortable all the time, because I was being told that I had to change my body to be valid,” she says. And because she didn’t achieve the unrealistic goals she set for herself, she was never happy with her appearance and had low self-esteem.
Like many others, it was in the spring and summer that Sarah Wickert put the most pressure on herself to have this famous “bikini body”, which would have allowed her to wear whatever she wanted.
“In winter, you can easily camouflage yourself under a large sweater. In the summer, even if I don’t go to the beach in a bikini, I will expose certain parts of my body,” confirms psychologist Geneviève Beaulieu-Pelletier.
But after a diet that made her sick, Sarah Wickert had had enough. She started a therapy which allowed her to realize that “if you wait to be thin before wearing shorts, you will wait a long time”.
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Constant work
This pressure to lose weight, Gloria-Bella was already putting it at the age of 12, when she began to be active on social networks.
“Growing up, I realized that even if I stopped eating, I have a certain genetics that means that I will not have this body. I accepted and understood that my body is not less valid because it is not a certain category of size and shape”, says the one who promotes the acceptance of her body on social networks .
Getting to love your body, however, is a constant job, recognizes the influencer, who makes it a point to talk about body diversity on social networks.
Men are also worried about their bodies
Karl Hardy agrees: “Self-confidence fluctuates.”
“In addition, in the middle of summer, it may be that you get up one day, that you find yourself super sexy and that the next day, you look in the mirror and that it does not work at all”, insists the content producer.
This pressure of the perfect body, men also undergo it, he specifies. “Men experience so much pressure and stress compared to [à leur apparence]. We are as exposed to beauty standards that are unattainable as women.
In his twenties, he wouldn’t allow himself to take his sweater off at the pool, not even with his best friends. Today, he manages to better get rid of the gaze of others and better accept himself.
to feel desirable
“It’s okay not to accept your body overnight,” says Julie Artacho.
The Montrealer has long believed that she had to be thin to be “desirable” in the eyes of men. She felt bodies like hers were associated with “sickness, shame and loathing.”
Today, even if her legs still sometimes complex her, she refuses to wear jeans around the swimming pool, as she once used to do.
“It’s hot, dress as you want,” she concludes.
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Tips for better accepting your body:
Clean up your social networks. There’s no point following people who don’t make you feel good.
Sarah, Gloria-Bella, Karl and Julie
Stop avoiding situations in which we might have to show parts of our body that we like less, like going to the beach. It is better to face your insecurities, rather than avoid them.
Genevieve Beaulieu-Pelletier
Take the time to look in the mirror and learn to love your body.
Sarah Wickert
Learn to get rid of the gaze of others.
Sarah Wickert
Stop setting unrealistic goals to have a “dream body”.
Gloria Bella
Remember that it’s normal for our bodies to change and be kind to yourself.
Karl Hardy
Stop “wanting to please at all costs”.
Julie Artacho
Reference-www.24heures.ca